If you go looking for a friend, you're going to find they're very scarce. If you go out to be a friend, you'll find them everywhere.
ZZZig ZiglarAs quoted in The Power of Respect by Deborah Norville (2009)
The quality of your life is the quality of your communication.
To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.
You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.
When dealing with people, let us remember we are not dealing with creatures of logic. We are dealing with creatures of emotion.
Remember that a person's name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.
Seek first to understand, then to be understood.
You will never win if you have to prove that you are the winner.
Leadership is not about titles, positions, or flowcharts. It is about one life influencing another.
The business of business is relationships; the business of life is human connection.
We have to belong to ourselves as much as we need to belong to others. Any belonging that asks us to betray ourselves is not true belonging.
A tribe is a group of people connected to one another, connected to a leader, and connected to an idea.
Life is really very simple. What we give out, we get back.
Discourage litigation. Persuade your neighbors to compromise whenever you can. Point out to them how the nominal winner is often a real loser, in fees, expenses, and waste of time.
The better part of one's life consists of his friendships.
Stand with anybody that stands right. Stand with him while he is right and part with him when he goes wrong.
Be courteous to all, but intimate with few, and let those few be well tried before you give them your confidence.
True friendship is a plant of slow growth, and must undergo and withstand the shocks of adversity before it is entitled to the appellation.
Confidence... thrives on honesty, on honor, on the sacredness of obligations, on faithful protection and on unselfish performance.
I have found the best way to give advice to your children is to find out what they want and then advise them to do it.
Peace is not the absence of conflict, but the ability to cope with conflict by peaceful means.
Let us learn together and laugh together and work together and pray together, confident that in the end we will triumph together in the right.
The bond of our common humanity is stronger than the divisiveness of our fears and prejudices.
Rosalynn was my equal partner in everything I ever accomplished.
JCJimmy CarterStatement on the death of Rosalynn Carter (2023)
If you want to make peace with your enemy, you have to work with your enemy. Then he becomes your partner.
The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.
Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.
Love is the only force capable of transforming an enemy into a friend.
No man can put a chain about the ankle of his fellow man without at last finding the other end fastened about his own neck.
The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen nor even touched but just felt in the heart.
The biggest disease today is not leprosy or tuberculosis, but rather the feeling of being unwanted.
MTMother TeresaAs quoted by Malcolm Muggeridge in Something Beautiful for God (1971)
The hunger for love is much more difficult to remove than the hunger for bread.
If we have no peace, it is because we have forgotten that we belong to each other.
MTMother TeresaEssay on working toward peace, Santa Clara University archive
Let no one ever come to you without leaving better and happier.
It is the enemy who can truly teach us to practice the virtues of compassion and tolerance.
Without forgiveness there can be no future for a relationship between individuals or within and between nations.
A person is a person because he recognizes others as persons.
DTDesmond TutuAddress at his enthronement as Archbishop of Cape Town (1986)
For small creatures such as we the vastness is bearable only through love.
I have never met a man so ignorant that I could not learn something from him.
GGGalileo GalileiQuoted in Will Durant, The Age of Reason Begins (1961); no primary source
Reprove your friend in secret and praise him openly.
Be slow in choosing a friend, slower in changing.
Without friends no one would choose to live, though he had all other goods.
When people are friends, they have no need of justice, but when they are just, they need friendship in addition.
A friend is one soul abiding in two bodies.
AAristotleQuoted in Diogenes Laertius, Lives of Eminent Philosophers
When we see men of worth, we should think of equaling them; when we see men of a contrary character, we should turn inwards and examine ourselves.
When I walk along with two others, they may serve me as my teachers. I will select their good qualities and follow them, their bad qualities and avoid them.
What you do not want done to yourself, do not do to others.
Associate with those who will make a better man of you. Welcome those whom you yourself can improve. The process is mutual; for men learn while they teach.
SSenecaMoral Letters to Lucilius, Letter VII, tr. Richard Gummere
Whoever gives reverence receives reverence.
RRumiMasnavi, Book I, tr. Kabir Helminski
Many of the faults you see in others, dear reader, are your own nature reflected in them.
RRumiMasnavi, Book I, tr. Kabir Helminski
The only reward of virtue is virtue; the only way to have a friend is to be one.
Trust men and they will be true to you; treat them greatly, and they will show themselves great.
Love truth, but pardon error.
VVoltaireSept Discours en Vers sur l'Homme (1738)
The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.
CJCarl JungModern Man in Search of a Soul (1933)
If there is anything that we wish to change in the child, we should first examine it and see whether it is not something that could better be changed in ourselves.
CJCarl JungThe Integration of the Personality (1939)
Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.
CJCarl JungMemories, Dreams, Reflections (1963)
The art of being wise is the art of knowing what to overlook.
Wherever you are it is your own friends who make your world.
WJWilliam JamesQuoted in Ralph Barton Perry, The Thought and Character of William James (1935)
The secret of happiness is this: let your interests be as wide as possible, and let your reactions to the things and persons that interest you be as far as possible friendly rather than hostile.
The heart has its reasons, which reason does not know.
It takes 20 years to build a reputation and five minutes to ruin it.
WBWarren BuffettAs quoted in Corporate Survival by Dan Robert Anderson (2005)
Whatever anybody says or does, assume positive intent.
INIndra NooyiThe Best Advice I Ever Got, Fortune (2008), passing on her father's advice
We are not in the coffee business serving people, but in the people business serving coffee.
Everyone has an invisible sign hanging from his or her neck that says, 'Make me feel important!'
The fastest way to change yourself is to hang out with people who are already the way you want to be.
The most important thing for a young man is to establish a credit, a reputation, character.
Play iterated games. All the returns in life, whether in wealth, relationships, or knowledge, come from compound interest.
NRNaval RavikantHow to Get Rich (without getting lucky), Twitter thread (2018)
If we are bold, love strikes away the chains of fear from our souls.
Perhaps travel cannot prevent bigotry, but by demonstrating that all peoples cry, laugh, eat, worry, and die, it can introduce the idea that if we try and understand each other, we may even become friends.
When people show you who they are, believe them, the first time.
MAMaya AngelouLesson recounted by Oprah Winfrey, Wellesley College commencement (2015)
Grief can take care of itself, but to get the full value of a joy you must have somebody to divide it with.
Selfishness is not living as one wishes to live, it is asking others to live as one wishes to live.
Love all, trust a few, Do wrong to none.
I meant what I said and I said what I meant. An elephant's faithful, one hundred percent.
Friendship, I have said, is born at the moment when one man says to another 'What! You too? I thought that no one but myself...'
Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.
The supreme happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved.
It is only with the heart that one can see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye.
The more I think it over, the more I feel that there is nothing more truly artistic than to love people.
Someone has a great fire in his soul and nobody ever comes to warm themselves at it, and passers-by see nothing but a little smoke at the top of the chimney and then go on their way.
Children internalize their parents' unhappiness. Fortunately, they absorb our contentment just as readily.
I think everybody longs to be loved, and longs to know that he or she is lovable. And, consequently, the greatest thing that we can do is to help somebody know that they're loved and capable of loving.
FRFred RogersFred Rogers: America's Favorite Neighbor (2003)
I believe that appreciation is a holy thing, that when we look for what's best in the person we happen to be with at the moment, we're doing what God does.
FRFred RogersCommencement address, Middlebury College (May 2001)
All you need is love.
And love is love is love is love is love is love is love is love cannot be killed or swept aside.